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Self-love, self-worth and self-esteem are possible. Unfortunately, for most women it is achieved late in life after unraveling all the years of false programming from childhood experiences. It is rarely something that we had appropriately and consistently modeled for us as children.
Sadly, my back story isn’t unique from most other women. I grew up in a home where my parents were always in turmoil. There was consistent arguing and my dad cheated on my mom. I watched my mom struggle with self-worth, often placing value on herself based on outside factors. While I always felt loved by my parents and had what I needed materially, my emotional state was a roller-coaster growing up and the image of self I developed was a reflection of my mom’s state as she was my primary role-model.
I was teased and bullied at school as I would cry at the drop of a hat and did not have the confidence to stand up for myself. I was painfully afraid to be unique, but the more I tried to gain acceptance the more I stood out as a target. It caused boughts of mild depression and further self-criticizing behavior.
As I progressed to high school, I began seeking the love I didn’t have for myself from a guy, much the same way my mother did from my father and, in fact, I ended up choosing a guy just like my dad!
He assessed my value to him by my outer beauty and what physical acts I was willing to consent to. My intelligence, my goofy and lovable personality, nor any of the other qualities I possessed were given merit and so I counted them worthless just as he had.
In the end, he cheated on me and tore my heart to shreds. I had followed in my mom’s footsteps almost exactly and this was one milestone in my life that made me realize I had work to do on myself and for myself!
Things got worse before they got better. I also found myself in two self-compromising situations as a teen. Yes, I was sexually assaulted. In my desperate quest for love and acceptance, I allowed myself to be in situations where I quickly knew I didn’t want to be but by the time I realized what was happening, it was too late. These two incidents scarred me deeper than I knew until I was well into my 20’s and came face-to-face with one of my attackers.
It took me years of self-esteem building, ridding my world of those who exploited my weaknesses, and surrounding myself with those who would teach and uplift me to become the vibrant, fulfilled woman I am now. I found my self-respect and love and it allowed for the man who treats me as I deserve to show up in my life. We married and have started a family.
Life has never felt so sweet! I love myself, beautifully perfect flaws and all! I am grateful everyday for the person I have transformed into and our beautiful little life together. I know I am a great role model for my little one and thankfully my children will grow up knowing self-worth and self-reliance and see a healthy relationship in their parents.
I want every woman on the planet to know herself and boldly own it! I want her to to feel Free, Fearless and Fulfilled!!! This is my mission.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]
Self-love, self-worth and self-esteem are possible. Unfortunately, for most women it is achieved late in life after unraveling all the years of false programming from childhood experiences. It is rarely something that we had appropriately and consistently modeled for us as children.
Sadly, my back story isn’t unique from most other women. I grew up in a home where my parents were always in turmoil. There was consistent arguing and my dad cheated on my mom. I watched my mom struggle with self-worth, often placing value on herself based on outside factors. While I always felt loved by my parents and had what I needed materially, my emotional state was a roller-coaster growing up and the image of self I developed was a reflection of my mom’s state as she was my primary role-model.
I was teased and bullied at school as I would cry at the drop of a hat and did not have the confidence to stand up for myself. I was painfully afraid to be unique, but the more I tried to gain acceptance the more I stood out as a target. It caused boughts of mild depression and further self-criticizing behavior.
As I progressed to high school, I began seeking the love I didn’t have for myself from a guy, much the same way my mother did from my father and, in fact, I ended up choosing a guy just like my dad!
He assessed my value to him by my outer beauty and what physical acts I was willing to consent to. My intelligence, my goofy and lovable personality, nor any of the other qualities I possessed were given merit and so I counted them worthless just as he had.
In the end, he cheated on me and tore my heart to shreds. I had followed in my mom’s footsteps almost exactly and this was one milestone in my life that made me realize I had work to do on myself and for myself!
Things got worse before they got better. I also found myself in two self-compromising situations as a teen. Yes, I was sexually assaulted. In my desperate quest for love and acceptance, I allowed myself to be in situations where I quickly knew I didn’t want to be but by the time I realized what was happening, it was too late. These two incidents scarred me deeper than I knew until I was well into my 20’s and came face-to-face with one of my attackers.
It took me years of self-esteem building, ridding my world of those who exploited my weaknesses, and surrounding myself with those who would teach and uplift me to become the vibrant, fulfilled woman I am now. I found my self-respect and love and it allowed for the man who treats me as I deserve to show up in my life. We married and have started a family.
Life has never felt so sweet! I love myself, beautifully perfect flaws and all! I am grateful everyday for the person I have transformed into and our beautiful little life together. I know I am a great role model for my little one and thankfully my children will grow up knowing self-worth and self-reliance and see a healthy relationship in their parents.
I want every woman on the planet to know herself and boldly own it! I want her to to feel Free, Fearless and Fulfilled!!! This is my mission.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]